Each and everyone of us has both personality characteristics,but some of us are more giving while others are more on the takers side.Many factors go into why some of us are givers versus those who are takers.Just like "ying & yang" you can't have one without the other.

Being labeled a taker means a number of things to me.Takers will take as much as you will allow,they know who to take from and from whom they can't.It is a very greedy personality type,one which is mostly concerned with themselves and never really caring about the people they continue to take from;whether it's money,time,or love a taker is always concerned with their needs first before others.They borrow money,never paying it back,they waist your time with meaningless squabble that only concerns them,and they take the hearts of others never giving back the amount of love that was given to them.Why are some people takers? As long as there are people giving there will be takers.It could be the way they grew up.If they were the only child or the baby of the family most likely sharing with others is limited.Some go their entire lives getting everything they want without working for it.Forgive me for explaining it as greedy personality,for many it is a survival mechanism.Many people had to grow up fending for themselves never having a caring person to give them the necessities of life;therefore creating a hardened personality that will give little of themselves.

The personality of a giver,one who helps others without hesitation.Kind soul always putting everyone first.Giving money to a friend in need,giving their time to hear the problems of others,and loving with all their heart.Same as the taker,the givers upbringing has a lot to do with why there are givers.If they grew up with caring and loving parents most likely they will take after the family & friends which they were raised.Ask the question, "Is this really a caring personality?" Or is it a person who just want to fit in or be accepted? A lot of givers have soft personalities,leaving themselves open to be taken advantage of.Some givers will do anything just to be apart of a group or accepted by someone.This could also be a survival mechanism,the same as a taker except a giver will give anything to fit in.Instead of hardening,they soften themselves.

You can't have one without the other!For some it is a survival mechanism and for others it's just apart of their mental fabric.It isn't good to be too much of one or the other,if possible try to be a mixture of both,an equal balance which will help you live a balanced life.

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