by Jay Morgetron

Created on: August 18, 2007   Last Updated: October 31, 2008

My husband and I had his co-worker (Ted) over for dinner the other night. He was supposed to bring his wife over, but instead, he brought his brother (Chaz). We grilled some pork chops, tomatoes, onions and veggie skewers and I made a giant bowl of broccoli slaw. We bought some beer. We listened to some good tunes. We had humorous conversation and at least scratched the surface of getting to know these fellas, who are originally from Wisconsin.

One thing that was apparent almost immediately was that Ted and Chaz really love *Star Wars*. In fact, Ted is really jealous that his brother has some how managed to acquire an authentic Storm Trooper get-up. He spent a grand on it, and could supposedly sell it right now for $2500. He plans to at least hang on to it until the 40th Anniversary of *Star Wars* so he can really bank on it. At one point, our guests noticed my computer and asked if they could show us a funny video from youtube. Guess what? It is a *Star Wars* themed video. Surprise, surprise. So, we watched IT and IT was indeed amusing. We had a good laugh.

Then, it was time for the boys to go home and as they were on their way out, Chaz took out his phone, scrolled through some photos and drew my husband aside. He said, "See ... This is my friend in my Storm Trooper suit." Then he chuckled. My husband said, "Nice." Then both of my daughters - not exactly in these words, but with something similar - said, "Let me see! I want to see!" because they'd been interacting with these guys had been exchanging *Star Wars* banter all night. He put the universal, "Whoa! Stop!" sign out and said, "Oh no ... Sorry. Can't show you this one girls" as he let out an amused chortle laced with a low level of discomfort.

And that's when he made eye contact with me.

All color drained from his face.

(In his zeal to impress my husband, did he forget that I was there?)

And that's when he and Ted thanked us for dinner and left.

Here's the deal: my husband informed me that it was a picture of a nude woman with a storm trooper helmet on her head.

I am irritated for a number of reasons, all of which I will list for your reading convenience:

A. My daughters were there.
B. I was there.
C. He didn't offer me a peek, gosh darnit!

It reminded me of my friend's situation. She kept sending semi-nude and nude photos of herself to her boyfriend (also my and my husband's friend) via their cell phones. Then he, in turn, would show them to everyone. (Unlike Chaz, he was at least kind enough to show them to me ... but he knows my personality a little better than Chaz does.) I told my friend's boyfriend that, out of respect for my friend, he shouldn't be sharing the pics with other people ... that he should thank his lucky stars that he HAS a girlfriend who is willing to do that for him and that in order to encourage her to keep doing it, he should keep them to himself. He said he hadn't thought of it that way.

Do I believe that one should exchange nude photos with the man or woman in your life? If I have to pick one answer, I would pick NO. The reason being - you just never know when the one you love will cross that fine line of love and hate and start selling the images on the Internet. The bottom line is, if you don't want your butt showing up on some amateur site, then keep your nudeness live ... don't record it for posterity.

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