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has received an analysis of their home life via my five-year-old.

But divorce is so prevalent any more. My sister-in-law, A.K.A. aunt Nelly, was telling me how since she filed for divorce about two months ago, two of her closest friends have also filed. One of the friend's soon-to-be-ex-husband pointed out that he felt like his wife was filing for divorce because she's seen the glamor of Nelly's life since separating from Martin. He may have a point. Marriage is a struggle. Single life may be more attractive ... for the first year or so. That glamor simply can't last, unless you are independently wealthy or you have a means of support. Many women are financially devastated after a divorce. My sister-in-law is lucky in that she has familial support. Is she leading a life of glamor? I think she's living a much better life than she was when she was married, but I think her friend's husband is looking for an excuse for why his wife left him.

It seems like kids are used to divorce now too. Callie and her friend Hunter have been hanging out in my front yard quite a bit lately. My husband was out of town for a week for a conference. Hunter took note of his absence after three days. She said, "HEY! Where does her (she pointed to my daughter) dad live now?"

"What do you mean?" I was perplexed.

"Where does he live now? He's not here."

"He's just on a trip honey ... He'll be back on Friday night."

"Oh."

It's sad to me that a male's absence for slightly more than 48 hours signals to her that he has left permanently. What must this say about what she knows?

When I was younger a couple of my friends' parents were divorced and it seemed so strange. The concept of staying with your dad on the weekends and visiting him on Thursday nights seemed like such a hassle. Now, I think my kids' friends may find it strange that our daughters have married parents. We may become a novelty. I hope not, but I do plan on staying married forever, even if it's not the most popular trend these days ... though I do realize most people do not PLAN to get divorced.

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