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The best way to say "I love you" is to not SAY it at all, rather it is to express it through your actions and reactions. If your eyes don't show the emotion, if you are not giving and caring, selfless, then eventually the words become empty.

As a married woman for the last three years, I have found that my husband says "I love you" the best when he does the simple things he knows that I will appreciate. When I come home from work and start cooking dinner and find that the trash has been taken out, that the dishes have been done and the dishwasher has been unloaded, these things make me smile and I can't help but think to myself how much my husband loves me. These things might not seem "romantic", but as most women will attest to, after you have been married for a few years, the best foreplay is a man who does the little things around the house that makes our lives easier!

Now I'm not saying that romance isn't important, and I think that doing "romantic things" are a great way to let your partner know that you love them. Sure, cards, flowers and chocolates on your birthday, anniversary, Valentine's Day, etc. are great, but I think that true romance comes from a man who takes the time to write out a sweet love note in a card and leaves it for you on a day that is otherwise not a special occasion. There is nothing more wonderful than coming home to find a beautiful bouquet of flowers waiting for you on a day that was otherwise "normal".

In addition, (and this is mostly for the men), don't simply turn on the charm when you want something. There is nothing worse than going along with the status quo, maybe living with a man who spends 90% of his time in front of the computer and suddenly you home to find a room full of candles and a man who expects that simple little gesture is going to get him something in the bedroom so that he can meet his needs and then go back to ignoring you. Remember that love is something that happens everyday, that you have to say "I love you" without words everyday.

Finally, save the words for a special occasion. Sure you can say "Love you" or something like that on a daily basis, but save the "I love you because..." words for a time when you are looking in your partner's eyes and are able to tell them exactly why you are in love with them.

Just to re-cap:
1. Pay attention to the little things that your partner appreciates
2. Listen and be attentive (if you know that your partner hates to come home to a full dishwasher, and you get home before them, unload it. A simple act like that goes a LONG way!)
3. Keep up with thing around the house
4. Bring the romance back on days that aren't special occasions
5. Surprise your partner
6. Don't just "show your love" when you want to "get some love"
7. On special occasions, take the time out to tell your partner "I love you because...", and give them the reasons why you are in love with them.

In the end...words can be an empty gesture if you rely on them too much, you have to "show" your feelings through your actions and your reactions to the things that are done for you!

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