Boy oh boy i am in my thirties but i remember it like it was yesterday and i would love to talk about it because boy was i in for a surprise.

I was a teenager not even ready for what was about to happen i didn't plan it and in my household we never talked about sex never spoke of it and if sex or words including sex as the content in them they were not said.The sad part of the situation was that i had to relied on the TV and friends for my knowledge and that was a disaster.

On television on every movie or soap opera they make the first time look so romantic so sexy and fail to show you the real deal so that is what i expected to feel like for the first time smooth easy and oh so good wrong answer.

The truth is the first time is nothing like the movies or soap operas you can brace your self if you are prepared and you know what to expect to feel the pain of the first time.No it doesn't mean that he is not being gentle but the first time for every girl I've ever talked to has said the same thing it hurts there is no way to make it not hurt.

The best thing you can do is make sure you are ready hopefully you have someone in your life that is willing to be gentle and caressing and take his time with you because if he is caressing you and taking his time you won't focus on the pain so much and it will make your experience a little better i can't speak for men but ladies just be prepared to deal with the pain.

It really doesn't matter the size of the mans private it's just that it is an area that is closed and it is being opened just know that after the first time the next time will be a better experience and less painful.

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