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As a woman and a mother of four I feel that maybe I come close to being an expert to what we women expect from our babies fathers during our pregnancy. First it is very important to for men to know that being pregnant is not a picnic. Although we claim to enjoy it, it is very hard on us physically, mentally and emotionally. Remember that we are growing an actual human being. A person that will grow and continue the cycle of human evolution. That's a big job. Once this is understood and accepted it will be easier for everyone involved in the pregnancy to get through it and enjoy it.

When we first find out we are pregnant, it is very exciting. But we only know because a test. We do not physically feel any different, yet. In the next few weeks after finding out that's when it hits us physically. We become very very tired. After all our bodies are working harder than we could ever imagine doing so. To some insensitive men when we take that nap in the middle of the afternoon that we never took before, or we were just too tired to do the dishes or cook dinner, please remember we are growing a person and you could never fathom how tired we really are. Then comes the worst part for some. There are a lucky few who don't experience this but here comes the nausea and or morning sickness. But it doesn't go away in the morning, it lasts all day long. Certain food we used to like make us sick. Smells are a big thing. We have developed super noses. So during this stage it's best not to become offensive that we don't want to eat our favorite meal that you have so thoughtfully made for us because the smell or taste of it makes us want to vomit. We appreciate your efforts, we really do. This is where it's crucial to listen to what we want. No feelings will be hurt if there is understanding to what we are going through. The morning sickness for some can last a couple of months to some case through the entire pregnancy.

Then when our bodies begin to change this will become hard on us. You might enjoy the larger breasts, but they are sensitive so it's best not touch. The worst part is when our clothes start getting tight or just don't fit anymore. We're going to cry. Remind us that we are beautiful and nothing is more beautiful than the woman carrying your baby. Then take us shopping for cute maternity clothes. We need to feel pretty as well as being told constantly that we aren't fat, we are caring your baby.

As we progress into the middle to later months, it is important to recognize we aren't comfortable anymore. We can sleep on our backs because we can't breath that way. We can't sleep on our stomachs anymore because, well it's in the way. We are stuck to our sides and we need all the pillows. If we work, it's murder on our backs and feet. We need plenty of back and foot rubs. This is important.

If you remember to just be a little more thoughtful. Ask us what we feel like eating. Make us feel beautiful and baby us because we aren't going to be your baby after the baby comes. Remember we want you at all our doctor appointments. We want to share this experience with you in every way possible. You not only will be the best husband but the envy of all other pregnant wives everywhere.

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