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In Love? Most of us have a misconception of what we think love is...it is hard to form lasting relationships in todays society. There is so much hype out there that makes the grass always look greener on the other side. Let me tell you it is not. Love is not an emotion it is a decision we make after carefully examining our options and choosing a mate. Unfortunately it is after we are all neatly tucked into a relationship that "the one" seems to come along. This my friend is an illusion. You see there are many kinds and degrees of love that we experience in our life time. One is that deep caring love we have naturally for our families, "the only unconditional love that exists" is between a parent and a child. A child naturally loves and wants to be with their parents no matter what they do, as far as right and wrong parenting goes. It is the unexplainable forgiveness that you seem to only be able to do easily when it is a family member thats needs to be forgiven. Then there is the love we have for a cute kitten or puppy. The one we have for our job, car, new outfit, or material objects. There is the love we have for our favorite movie, song, poem, time of year, or something that touches us emotionally when we hear or see it. Then there is the love for our mate in life. This is the tricky one...the one that will go away or turn to contempt if we do not always and constantly work at staying in love with this person. The butterflies in your tummy, can not live with out this person feeling goes away after a few bouts with money problems or not seeing eye to eye on matters of importance to us. where we developed the misconception about love is here... we think we are always supposed to feel in a happy state when we are in love...that simply is not true. At best the most a person can hope for in life is to be content! Happiness is a temporary feeling of excitement we experience when we are nicely surprised or something out of the ordinary happens to us. To expect our mate to make us continuously feel that, is very unfair! Life will always have high and low points. If you have someone who will stick beside you through all of these times then you have found someone with whom a mutual respect and a very deep bond in a loving manner will grow and deepen with time, and that is what we do not have the patience to figure out all too often. Love takes time to grow, and the more you take care of it and nurture it the stronger and more beautiful it becomes.

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