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There is no positive answer for this question, only negative signals. If you observe the following traits, you should consider your relationship rocky. If you see a number of these traits, the answer is staring you in the face.

1. Does your partner push you into going faster or further in the relationship that you would want to? Maybe your partner is more interested in conquest and chalking up points that a long term relationship.

2. Does your partner keep parts of his/her life separate from you? If your partner doesn't like you being with his friends, or knowing his parents, or participating in his hobbies, then perhaps he is letting you know how much he wants you in his life.
3. Does your partner lie or become evasive when you talk about your relationship. This is a signal that the relationship is not important to you partner. Your partner probably wants what he gets with you without putting in the commitment.
4. Does your partner monopolize you? If you find that you are seeing your friends less, or that your partner is jealous of your relationship with your buddies, the that person is signaling that he sees you as on object and possession and not a human being.
5. Do you keep getting depressed after seeing your partner, but can't figure out why? Maybe you are seeing more in the relationship than is really there. Sometimes we want something so much that we fail to see how it is hurting us.
6. Does your partner act differently towards you when you are alone? Some people use relationship to earn points with their social group. You know it isn't love if you are being used to get something your partner wants.
7. Does your partner make fun of you? Teasing is normal. Hurtful mocking is not. If you tell your partner that something bothers you, and they won't try to stop, then they do not love you. If this is a foundation of your relationship, then it is probably best to forget it.
8. Have you ever noticed your partner has a temper? If your partner displays a temper, then he's human. If he expresses himself to you, treat that in confidence. If he ever hits you, dump him, have him arrested and if you can, tell someone big and ugly to stomp him until he is a grease spot on the driveway. Okay, I'm kidding about that last part. He doesn't have to be big and ugly.

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