I have always been more shy than others. I always keep to myself, and I am very independent and like to do things by myself. I get frustrated and uncomfortable talking to others who I may not know very well. There was nothing harder than when I was a teenager and I had to talk to someone of the opposite sex, especially when I liked them. I felt warm and sweaty, and I really didn't know what to say.

Looking your best may sound quite simple, but it is very important. Now I am not saying that you need to go through a whole makeover transition, but maybe a new outfit or a new hairstyle. You would be amazed at the smallest changes in looks can make a big difference. Ask for a good friend's opinion. They will be able to honestly tell you what looks best on you.

Don't try to act like something you are not. If you aren't the prettiest in your class, or the most athletic, don't be it. Nobody wants to talk to someone who is phony, or lies about the dumb things. If you are honest and sincere, they will be more apt to have a great conversation with you, and it will be more comfortable for the both of you.

Talk about something easy. Ask them about what they are wearing, or what music they have on their Ipod. There is nothing worse than someone approaching me and asks something I have no idea about. Talk about an uncomfortable situation! I don't know about anyone else, but I could personally talk about myself for hours!

Don't try to hard. Though it may seem like the hardest thing to do in your life, it really isn't that bad. Just think of it this way. The first conversation is the hardest, and every one after that is going to be so much easier. Start with something small, and each conversation get bigger. Once you have done this a couple of times, it will get so much easier.

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