It's your time, momma is gone and you are in charge. I know and feel your pain as I once was right where you are. When my first child was born, I was a nervous wreck the first few months. Here are some of the things that I was saying to myself the first time I flew solo. "You don't think his head will snap off do you?" "He has only had an ounce of formula, so where is all the poop coming from?" "Oh no! he now is puking and pooping!" "What time is his mother getting back?" "Is he breathing? I know he is asleep but I can't see his chest move." "Maybe I should wake him up to make sure he's breathing".

New dad, please understand that it is not that bad. Yes it is. No just kidding, it's not. When the second child comes along you get kind of cocky and confident because you have been through the ropes already. Unfortunately, your second child comes out different and comes equipped with a new set of challenges. But you will make it. I promise. Just remember these few tips that I learned. First, they really don't break very easily. Yes, they have a soft spot on their head that you have to look out for, but they really won't fall apart in your hands. Second, just know that you are going to change some diapers(no you can't leave them sitting in it until mom gets home). Third, you can count on momma calling home at least fifteen times to check up on you. When she does call, don't sound nervous just reassure her that all is well(even if it is not). When my wife would call and check up on me, I took the opportunity to confirm feeding times and other questions that I had. Fourth and final, the child will cry and cry and cry. This is not a bad thing. It is normal for them to cry a lot. If you get flustered, just take the precious little one into their bedroom and lay them in the crib until you regain your sanity. It will not hurt them to lay there and cry for a few minutes. It is better to let them cry then for you to lose it and do something harmful. Just remember you are one dad in a million that is home alone with your child tonight. As Red Green says, "we're all in this together and I am rootin' for ya".

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