by Matthew Marlow

Created on: August 10, 2007

I am very please to announce the conception of our fourth child. I remember well when I emphatically told my wife that we would only have two children. It is amazing how being a father grows on you. I am not going to tell you that it has been easy, in fact there were many challenges on this journey through fatherhood. Helping out during the pregnancy certainly tops the list, (and gains points to help you through future challenges!)

So what can a future father do to help a beautiful budding woman as she takes on the monumental task of caring for a new life inside her while trying to maintain her own health, not to mention her concern about keeping you from running out of the house screaming? First of all, DON'T RUN! This is going to be a wonderful experience.

Let's take this slowly. First, I have found that you can help your pregnant wife by giving her some space. Many guys like to cuddle, but this practice needs to be mentally monitored and brought before the woman whose hormones now attempt to run her life. She will let you know when the time is right. Next, don't wait to be asked to do the dishes or laundry (unless you already burned that bridge by ruining her bras) Oh, and don't make fun of her new large stretch panties. In fact, don't make fun of her at all. It is important to remember that she is going through a very stressful time.

Remembering that the baby inside your wife is a human being, be sure to spend quality time with your new family. Have quite time where you can listen to her belly, and show that you too are excited about the upcoming events. You may find that this relieves some stress for your spouse as she sees your commitment to loving the child she is working so hard on.

Finally, and this will be the most difficult, squash that pride! You will not be the center of attention. Although she may find your day at the office slightly interesting, the baby's first kick is much, much more important. Those strange feelings your wife will have that creates a need to call the doctor in the middle of the night are normal, and need not upset you as a future father. You can always catch up on your sleep 18 years from now, unless you are like me and just started on your fourth, nine years after your first

Welcome to fatherhood, you will do fine.

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