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I find a mixture of both usually works. You cant let your head rule every single dating decision you make, you end up spending too long analyzing every single situation. BUT then again letting your heart rule sometimes results in you being hurt and afterwords thinking "what was i doing? i should have used my head".

I'm only 20 and yes i admit some people think "what does she know about love". Believe me i let my first love take over my life,I'd always been a smart girl , realistic targets in love and relationships but he changed all that. I found every decision i made regarding him was ruled by my heart. I ended up alone. Hurt and betrayed and alone. Because i didn't let my head for once take charge and read the signs. Now since then I've found myself sometimes rather cynical when it comes to love especially the initial stages. But I've become the relationship smart girl i once was. I've found a balance.

I love my boyfriend but sometimes when we're talking and he asks me something i answer with my head. Yet then again when he's being all soppy with me and its making me smile and he asks me a question i answer with my heart. In some ways with him i build up walls yet in other ways i wear my heart on my sleeve. I used to trust my ex 110%. Yet I've learned that trusting with my heart was a mistake. Now i trust my current boyfriend 98%. I keep that little 2% in my head for my own security. Its not that i don't want to trust him, its just when you get burnt once , you don't want it happening again. Sometimes yes its awfully romantic to think that every love and life choice you make is coming from your heart but at the same time i think in todays society with such open views about sex, infidelity and love its safer to make certain decisions with your head. If you use both and it doesn't work out for you at least then you can say " i did try" and you wont be so likely to curse yourself for making a wrong choice. Ruling with your heart can be an adrenalin rush for a few weeks but ruling with your head can sometimes save you from heartache in the future.

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