by Danelle Karth

Created on: August 08, 2007

Friendships and ex-boyfriends don't really go hand in hand. We often want them to, after all we liked spending time with them.

However, no matter how hard we try, there are usually, though not always, one of the following issues (and in some cases more then one).

Some of us have emotional ties with him and don't want to let him go. We then feel hurt and jealously. This isn't a good situation for our heart or our emotions. Ultimately it hurts us more then just cutting the tie.

Sometimes sex gets in the way. When you had a sexual relationship it is hard not to want to continue that. Sometimes he may want it sometimes you may want it, but either way it isn't healthy.

Then there is the new boyfriend. Having a relationship with the ex often causes issues with the new. He (or she if it is in the reverse) often feels jealous of the ex, or concerned. I think a major part of this is the fact that he knows he would want to have sex with you if he were your ex.

All in all, it is best to let your ex go. There are people who have a good relationship with their ex, but it isn't an easy thing to do, especially while moving on. The only truly complicated issue with this is if you have children with him, then no matter what you have to see him and have a relationship of sorts with him.

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