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the start of a estrange relationship. To avoid more quarrel and disagreements, most couples choose to evade from the problems. However, the grudge and resentment is there. The problem is never settled.

When children comes, the case is worsen. The wife had to do housework, look after children, do the cooking, discipline the children, earn money, be the children's mentor and tutor; the wife also have to be a 'slave' to the 'traditional' inconsiderate husband who think that everything is the woman's job! What kind of happiness and relaxation can the wife enjoy? And when being discussed the same issue and the problem of raising the children, the husband choose to evade the problems. Many men run away from problems. They choose to 'enjoy life' rather than face life. They fool around to immerse their sorrows. Women settle problems that their husband created and they have to suffer heart pain and sorrows for the kind of love that they had given out but is unreciprocated.

On the other hand, if the husbands and wives are understanding, both have their share of housework, by this I mean sharing of household tasks - eg. tutoring the kids, discipline the kids, cooking, mopping the floor, ironing clothes and so on. Each of them have a specific roles, have a fair share, then the women would not be stressed out. By having a fair share of housework, when both the husband and wife do housework together, it will reinforce their relationship too. With children, it is a family affair altogether, and it makes a meaningful family activity even! However, all these is made possible with a hand that is willing to clap.

Afterall doing housework is not tough afterall, but it takes time. Every little thing takes time. When the wife is busy doing all the tasks at home, busy with housework and busy with children, the husband is free to do what he wants. Sometimes when the wife is busy until she has not even taken her own lunch, the husband even ask for a cup of coffee. This is treating the wife as a 'maid'! This definitely will not make the woman happy.

To make the marriage works, it takes the couples, the husband and wife to learn to give and take. But there is a limit to giving and taking. It is paying respect and treating people with empathy. Many married couples are like that around me. Sharing housework definitely will help in the marriage.

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