Having been married for 10 years, I can say that the easiest day of being married is the day in which you stroll down the aisle. While the wedding day seems to be packed full of details, fright, and nervousness, it will become the simplest day of your married life.

Having lived with my wife before saying I do, I really didn't think it would be anything different being married. I felt we had many of the tiny issues covered: chores, cooking, cleanliness, and hygiene habits. We also had discussed and settled on many of the bigger issues: child rearing, money and our budget, religion, and each set of in-laws. After saying our vows, I figured we would settle into the normalcy our lives were before celebrating our love for one another in the church. Nothing would be different except we would both don a ring signifying our love, and our last names would now be the same instead of different as before.

For whatever reason, it was completely different for me. Maybe it was because I believed in the vows I promised to my wife, and so I felt compelled to honor them, maybe it was because I was joined in front of friends, family and God in celebrating my love for her, and maybe it was because we were married now, which was more formal and binding by law. Whatever the reason was, the importance of this relationship took on a new intensity and meaning.

Each day of each year has been hard, our love is as strong as ever, but each day of each year, is difficult in keeping that love fresh, vibrant, and sustaining; and instead of becoming easier, it gets harder because you become settled in, complacent, and satisfied with where things are. But, as with anything, each day is different, bringing with it different challenges, issues and trials, each of these must be handled, dealt with, solved and resolved. Like with buying a new car, that fresh smell soon dissipates, and that new car becomes just a car, the novelty having worn off.

I have found the trick is to treat each day with the wild-eye enthusiasm of our first day of man and wife, trying to fill my mind with the splendor and vigor as I did on our wedding day, as I still want to give my wife the sun, moon, and stars, setting out to accomplish that each and every day. I awaken and wonder what I can do to make my wife's day easier and better, then set off toward achieving this goal. I know it is the little things that matter, being sensitive to her needs, desires and wants.

The wedding day is the easiest day of marriage by far, but if you treat each day with its proper importance, be willing to make the appropriate sacrifices, then the remaining hard days are worthwhile and glorious ones.

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