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I was that teen daughter. I was so very scared to tell my parents, what would my religious family think of me?

Emotions are running high when you find out your daughter is pregnant, but keep in mind that SHE is going through something too. You may consider asking her to have an abortion, or give the child up for adoption. Your reasons may be selfish (I'm to young to be a Grandma!) or not (she's to young to be a Mother!). Before you offer that advice while everyone is so upset, think of her and the child.

You will be surprised the reserve of strength that comes from even the youngest of Mothers, and they MAY make great Mothers, but ultimately, the choice to be one is theirs.

The baby may have been a mistake, and at a bad time, but there is a baby none the less. The worst thing you can do is yell at her. Do you really want her to be pushed away from you and close down right now?

If the pressure and stress seems to much right now, get on-line, there are tons of support groups out their for teen mothers, and their families. Or, if you, or your teen, have any questions, I'd be glad to try to help if I can. I went through it, not once, but twice. It's a whole new scary world. Just try to find help and comfort where you can; in each other.

The horse is out of the barn, as they say, and there is nothing you can do to change that, but you can have a handle on the future by talking honestly and openly to your daughter. There is new responsibility for both of you, so treating her like an adult will help her fully understand that.

If school is a concern, take heart. Many schools (a sign of the times) now offer early graduation programs, or they can even finish high school on-line.

It doesn't mean the end of their future, it's a new beginning. It just has to be taken in stride.

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