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The direct answer to this query would be that parents who scream are acting inappropriately if they intend to set a decent example for their children. That is where control is lost, and a vicious cycle begins.

We expect our children to behave, and we get upset when they defy us. We yell, everyone gets into a screaming match and absolutely nothing is accomplished.

What it comes down to is who is the adult, are you an adult? Can you behave like an adult? Don't expect them to, not ever, not if you can't. When a child yells and screams to get their way, this is a learned behavior.
Who did they learn to scream from? You of course. Can't put up with a pushy, ill tempered, out of control child who screams at you? Get up, go find a mirror and repeat the last thing you said to your child.

If you don't like the way that person in the mirror was speaking to you, neither does a child. Would you listen to you?

Often what we forget is where the lesson lies. Discipline is a manner of communication. The better we are able to communicate with each other, the more efficiently we solve problems.
Screaming is not an efficient manner of communication, it does not solve anything.

As parents we need to exercise some decency, show a good example, use inside voices.
You would not want your child using obscenities , so you try to limit the use of these words around children. Limit negative delivery of words as well as negative words.
Children can only learn from their environment. If it is full of patient, mature adults who respect each other and their children, the child will learn this.

When you need to scream, go into the other room, grab a pillow, or close the door. Look in a mirror and let it out. Then give your child your best side.

If you scream at your child you have not lost control over your self alone. You've lost control over the child as the parent, get ready to be overwhelmed and overrun by a screaming monster, that you created in your own image of course.

Not screaming does not mean that the child does not appreciate the seriousness of your words, they will not walk all over you. They will give you the same respect you afford to them. Honor thy son and daughter.

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