by Kelly Connell-sexpertkelly

Created on: July 23, 2007   Last Updated: July 24, 2007

What you need to know about premature ejaculation-basic facts

Premature ejaculation can be an embarrassing, frustrating part of sex for any man-and woman for that matter. Premature ejaculation can also be hard to define. Some define it using the number of thrusts during sex before coming, some simply define it as coming before you want to. Many men have asked me how they can last longer. I want to point out that there is a difference between premature ejaculation and simply wanting to keep an erection for a longer period of time. There have been men who have told me they only last an hour and think there is something wrong with them-that they should be lasting longer. That is not premature ejaculation. Premature ejaculation is also marked by an inability to control ejaculation. You feel it coming and cannot stop it. Sometimes with only a little stimulation. The truth is, it happens to everyone at some point. But if it occurs on a regular basis and you or your partner find it is contributing to making your sex life less than satisfactory, then it may be time to look for ways to learn ejaculatory control.

Here is the good news: Premature ejaculation is one of the easiest sexual dysfunctions to fix! With a little effort and understanding every man can learn good ejaculatory control. It won't happen overnight, you will need patience. But you will see results. Below are some basic facts and tips to get your started on the road to ejaculatory control.

1. Start with a medical exam. Some sexual dysfunctions are caused by a medical problem and you always want to rule it out or, if it is ruled in, get treatment. Many times if the medical problem is resolved, the dysfunction resolves itself. Also, some medications cause erectile and ejaculation problems. However, please consult with your doctor before discontinuing and medication on your own.
2. Premature ejaculation is a LEARNED behavior. That's right. Learned. Men train their bodies to ejaculate quickly by the way they masturbate. Most men masturbate very quickly and are only interested in the quick orgasm or release. Your ejaculatory muscles are just those-muscles, and if they are not in shape they don't do what you want them to do. By masturbating fast you are telling those muscles you want a fast reaction.
3. Do your kegel exercises! This will not only help you build up those muscles, it will help you learn ejaculatory control and increase the intensity of your orgasm! To do kegel exercises simply contract your kegel

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