It's all about practice, practice and more practice, ladies and gentlemen. You know the saying, "Practice makes perfect?" Yup, they knew (whoever they were) what they were talking about. And practice in the world of dating means going out with several different people, testing the waters and seeing what's out there. Basically, it is always a good strategy to treat every date like a job interview. That means being charming, likeable , and putting forth your best assets.

It would help to start out by listing your best assets in the beginning, before that much-waited-for date. No, you are not being vain by evaluating how awesome you are. But by focusing on those special characteristics that make you "dateable", you will be able to stay away from subjects/aspects that make you feel insecure. It is absoltely okay to tell your date how amazing of a cook you are or how you can rival Maria Sharapova in a game of tennis. So grab a piece of paper and a pencil, sit down, and write all the points that make you feel good about yourself. What is the sense on concentrating on the negative, after all? First dates tend to be a lot like job interviews anyway, so why not make yourself a desirable commodity? No need to brag about yourself, but with that being said, don't be afraid to say a few kind words about yourself.

In terms of actually going on your first date and picking the place to go to, be the one in charge. You may feel intimidated choosing, but at the end, if you are the one making a choice, you will feel more comfortable in the environment you pick as opposed to the place your date picks. So take charge, be bold, don't be afraid to plan everything - your date will appreciate the effort. Pick a place where the atmosphere is lively, so that if there are any awkward pauses in a conversation, they will be much less noticeable with a slight background noise. But don't let the environment distract you from your date. Be attentive at all times, so that if your date is getting bored, you can immediately remedy the situation.

Lastly, always remember that the best way to best your shyness is to ignore it. Be fore you let your fears paralize you, get out there, make your move and before you know it, you will be engaging in a conversation with the object of your desire. Your shyness is but an obstacle to conquer and if it has been done before, then ,surely, you will be able to do it as well.

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