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Why is it I have trouble with commitment and decision making and then I'm also never contented with what I've got or what I am doing now or what life seems to give me. Are they connected, contentment and commitment? I'm always questioning myself and seeking answers for the way I am and to understand how life works.

Yes to be fully committed is contentment itself and nearly always brings a further level of contentment. To make a firm decision requires commitment and a certain hint of contentment within yourself to be confident enough to be able to make a decision. The confidence is the ability in yourself to accept that your decision will be for the best; the commitment is then in giving it your very best shot. You have problems with this when you are not prepared to give it your best shot because you want to already first measure the outcome and the reward to you in advance before you commit to it. This is because you do not like to think that you are only wasting your time and want to know that the effort will be worth it. But this is being too "you centred" and you have to realise that everything is connected and that the benefits are much wider than just yourself. To be committed to a cause serves the cause and serves others that you are performing the service for and in effect serves all of life. For me I really need to sort out this commitment by dedicating and disciplining myself to choose a path and then to go down that path for a while and try giving something my best shot. The real benefit is in choosing and doing your best, this is where you learn the most about life, the path is mostly secondary, and can always be changed later. Learn to decide, to commit, to do your best and to be self disciplined and these attributes will serve and carry you along nearly all the paths that you will ever choose now or in the future, build yourself and stop worrying so much about your path and if it is correct for you. It will never be perfect, it's only ever just right for now, so start moving now is the only thing to ever do. Action always is a commitment and is the first major step to achievement.

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