by pwill

Created on: July 18, 2007   Last Updated: November 27, 2007

When you hit yourself accidentally and caused an injury, notice when the wound heals, it can sometimes leave an ugly scar. If you could look at your heart, that is what you would see. The pain of breaking up can be insurmountable even many years afterwards, because there will be times when you would wonder if you made the right decision. Depending upon the degree of the relationship, will calculate upon how long it will take for your heart to heal.

Everything depends upon how you decide to use your mind. How you are willing to think, after your relationship. We all have free choices and free will. We can have our down time to grieve over our misfortune and then, decide it is time to move on; because there really isn't anything we can do about the past. Or, we can choose to continually fret over our heartache, in our mind and to our friends, only to discover that each time we do this, our past problem seems to get worse by the hour and day. In actuality we are building a whole new brick house of anger and depression each time we relive our painful events. Nothing is accomplished, except building that house.

Can we remember, why we left him/her in the first place? If you were the one who was rejected, can you recall that, the same thing they did to you, will only circle around and be done to them(sometimes in multiples); because that is indeed a divine principle. Besides, ask yourself if you would really want that type of individual in your life? When you were together, did they bring you up or bring you down? Consider yourself delivered from a bad set of circumstances and not just liberated and free, but blessed.

Begin by practicing a new mindset of looking at the break-up as a deliverance in your life. If they stopped loving you, would you really want your relationship to continue? If a person can stop loving you that easily, chances are; their love was shallow and not offering the depth you need. Look at the whole thing in a 360 turn about and you will see just how fortunate you really are. There are reasons for everything that happens and when two people part in their ways, are no exception.

Begin to count your blessings and rub an ointment of goodness on that scar and be good to yourself. Hold your standards up high, don't be in a hurry to get into another relationship and most important, forgive.

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