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Dear daughter

I'm writing you this letter in response to the criticism you have over my new life situation.

It wasn't long ago you came to me with teary eyes because you had something you had to tell me. You wanted me to except you and your choices in life. It was hard for me at first but because I love you nothing else mattered.

No doubt and I will not deny you telling me your gay has caused me to re-think every thing in my life.

As you grow older you will see the best thing you can be is fluid were people are concerned don't expect anything from them and you won't be disappointed. You taught me some great lessons, lessons that made me reflect my own life and happiness and re-think who I was.

I'm not blaming you for the up-roar currently going on in our family's life, only asking you to re-think what you think of me at this current moment I will take all the blame if need be.

I am 44 years old now, nothing you will even begin to understand at age 22. But hopefully you will before you reach that age.

After the mess over you coming out and my apologies, I did some deep thinking about my life through excepting you for who you are, and knowing the reason you told me about your choices, I too have the same desire and that's just to be happy, just be myself.

My life is more than half over, do you understand that? I have given all you kids everything I have, you wanted your freedom, so I gave you mine. Now realizing where I am on the life clock I knew I needed to make some changes in my life. I have always been there for all you kids. I gave up everything for you guys, not asking for anything in return, only for you to be good people.

All I want now in my life is happiness, Happiness is something I only found in being your mother not in my marriage. I have looked deep inside and had to admit to myself truthfully how unhappy I was. My making this decision to leave your dad was based completely on my own happiness and my life. For once I am going to be selfish as you may view it but, please understand me when I say this is something I have longed for all the while but never had with a man.

When I met Mark I had long before made my decision to get out of this marriage and didn't meet him until after your dad left. I was not looking for anyone only some peace of mind, a way to start my path of happiness. I'm not asking you to love him as I do, I'm only asking you to do what I did with you when you came out, except he & I, despite your current feelings about us.

I'm the happiest I have ever been, I would hope you would be happy for me, knowing the feeling yourself to once be happy and be free.

I am not just a mother or a cook or a house cleaner, I am a woman, I am accountable for my own happiness, I am a person who needs to be loved back, I need to feel love deep inside my soul before my life is over. Please do not hate me for seeking out and finding what every human wants in life and my only wish is you yourself will have this love in your life before it is too late.

I will always love you despite what your decision is, but my happiness will not be complete unless we can once be a family again.

Love always and forever
Your Mom

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