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Everybody wants love in their life, right? ...If you answered YES, then I must inform you that I believe your answer to be absolutely INCORRECT! "Why?", you ask? Well, I'll tell you why. I have been on dating sites for over one year, now, and it seems that there are all kinds of people out there, in the cyber dating community, just as there are in the real world. Many, it seems, are looking for a 'find' as they would in any 'meat market'. Some are married, some are just lonely (and only looking for a quick fix), some are dangerously unbalanced...BUT THERE ARE ALSO DECENT PEOPLE that give the dating sites a try! All of them, however, are not necessarily looking for 'love'...at least, not the 'love' that you perceive. There are as many forms of 'love', as there are people! Getting to my point, 'How To Be Successful With Relationships Over The Internet", I would strongly suggest that you have no expectations at the start; that is don't make your heart vulnerable/available upon a first contact. At the same time, enjoy what is offered to you, (if, indeed, it is enjoyable to you) and if not, END the contact immediately and with good manners and grace. If you do find somebody after an online chat, whose personality appeals to you, the next step would be an agreed upon phone call. Now, folks, don't forget to BE SAFE! There are a few lunatics out there, that may call you at any given odd hour, and jeopardize your peace, security and safety (this means men, as well as ladies!). I have, over time, been deceived by an online partner; thinking that the person they portrayed was true. So, beware! Now, you've made your first phone contact. REMEMBER THE GOLDEN RULE...POLITENESS COUNTS! That rule applies to you, as well as your partner. You are 'feeling them out', at this point, as they are doing the same. Keep your phone call balanced,...that is to say, allow communication to go both ways. Politely ask pertinent questions, and only answer questions that you feel comfortable doing. Hopefully, there's a lot more going on; there's a flow of excited energy going in both directions. If this be the case, remember, SAFETY! ...but, enjoy the conversation. If you both had a positive connection via the phone, then at last, you will both wish to meet. I suggest keeping it simple. You may meet, only to find they are not the person you perceived. Be gracious, but not foolish. Keep it short and sweet, and tell the truth. It's best for both to not waste each others' time. Expressing that there is no chemistry, but they are a lovely person, and you wish them luck. Thank them for meeting you. Now, if it's a real connection, and everything in your body/mind says GO, then do just that. Go with the flow...enjoy, laugh share...hold hands if you will...and be on your way with hope, optimism, and the sheer joy at having found someone that you are creating a 'moment' in your life with, in which you may remember for an eternity. ...Yes, just sit back, and 'go with the flow'. You may well, after all your work, have found just what you have been looking for!

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