As the mother of an incredible six year old, I have had the opportunity to teach him many things, including my beliefs as both a pagan and an atheist. I have taught my son to be kind to people, animals, plants and insects. He does not understand how people can kill a spider, or even an ant. He does not pull leaves off of a tree, if he wants a leaf he will ask the tree first (and wait for an answer). Some people who do not understand our way may want to laugh about now, but I must ask, "Do the children you know show this kind of respect for life?". I see so many children who 'have religion' be disrespectful to plants, insects, animals and their fellow humans.

I allow my son to make his own choices regarding most things, and guide him in how his choices may affect friends, family, and our world. Currently, some of his beliefs are (typical for his age) based on what's in it for him; so naturally the tooth-fairy and Santa are in, like most children his age, but so are dragons (they are his protectors). By the same token, if something is too scary then he chooses not to believe in it; werewolves, gremlins and witches are out (even though I am a witch and an atheist). When he asks me if something is real, I ask what HE believes; we then will sit and discuss whether this is fantasy or reality based. When origin or death related questions arise, I educate my son to understand not only my beliefs, but those of other cultures and religions also; I feel this is important to promote an attitude of understanding and acceptance. If I am not sure of how another group would view the answer, we will go to the library or online to research accurate information about the belief and how different (and often similar) it may be.

I do not force my son to follow my beliefs; instead I help to guide him in learning how to research and make informed decisions. To me it is more important to have a child who learns that his choices have consequences and how to accept responsibility for his actions, rather than blame his problems on some kind of demon or devil'. So far I can't complain as he is loving, kind, conscientious and much better behaved than the majority of children in his class.

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