Most people where born into families where their parents had a ideas and plans for that persons life since they where born. There is a good chance that you are one of these people. There where certain jobs or activities that where OK and ones that "are beneath us". And you may or may not remember it, but it has had an affect on the rest of your live. There is a little voice that lives in your head that sorts everything out about what you do and who you are that stems from that time.

The first thing you need to do is realize that these aren't your views. These are the views that someone else chose due to either something they were taught or something that happened in their past. Once you can see that you are free to feel any way you like about your life and what you do for living, doors open up, and you are free to really look at what you enjoy doing.

What did you want to do when you where little? Here is a good clue to things that you enjoy without the overbearing pressure of adulthood. This may not be what you want to do now, but it might give you an idea of things you might enjoy. For example, when I was 5, each person in my kindergarten class got a chance to be featured for the week. On Monday of your week, you would get to answer several questions about yourself and it would be posted up on the wall. The one part of this that I really remember was my teacher asking my what I wanted to be when I grew up. "A cheerleader!" I said proudly. Looking threw a book my mother saved of yearly memories like that, I found "nurse, "teacher", things like that. Now, I don't want to be any of those things, but if I look at them for clues I can see that I wanted to help people, I wanted to cheer for them, I wanted to help them know what they wanted to know... All of these things are encased in Life Coaching. Take a look at your child-self and see if you can find some clues.

Then step by step you can incorporate those things you enjoy into your life to reclaim your life.

Finding a coach can speed up the process by providing time to focus on making progress with your life.

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