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Should cheating husbands be forgiven? Wow, what a topic for conflicting feelings and answers! Many will say yes, absolutely, no matter what. Many others will say no, never, no matter what. Still others, will say "I Don't Know" or "Depends On The Circumstances." I fall into the Category of "Depends on The Circumstances." However, as a general rule, I'm more inclined to say "no" in most cases.

I absolutely DO NOT believe it is okay, EVER, for one spouse to cheat on another. It's wrong, and breaks those sacred vows that we make before God him/herself and our Government. Marriage vows are the most sacred kind of "contract", and the breaking of those vows can have devastating effects on both partners, physically, mentally, emotional, financial, etc. In some areas it is actually against the LAW to cheat on your spouse!

That being said, there are many reasons why people cheat, and while they aren't good enough to excuse the action, those reasons should be taken into consideration whenever making the decision to forgive your husband or not. In many cases- unless you're with a "serial cheater," the cheating is only a symptom of a deeper issue in your marriage and not the actual cause of the issues within the marriage.

When making the decision to forgive your cheating husband or not, it also helps to take into consideration other factors of your relationship with them... Do you have children? Is divorce an option? Is this a first time offense? Can you truly forgive and let it go? Is your love for each other strong enough to make it through the heartbreak and betrayal that comes with one spouse cheating on another? Are you truly committed to making your marriage work, regardless?

Making the decision to forgive or not forgive a cheating husband is not easy, and there is no "One size fits all", Yes or No Answer, that works for everyone. It all depends on the situation and the couple involved.

If you do not think you'll be able to forgive your husband for cheating, then you likely should move on. Whether his infidelity was the result of a one-time momentary lapse in judgement, or a long-term affair, no one needs to have their mistakes thrown in their face repeatedly or continually pay for something bad they have done.

Forgiveness means to let go and move past the hurt. If you aren't able to do this with your husband- even with the help of a marriage counselor, the best thing for both of you would be to end your marriage. If you still, however, love your husband and are willing to try to work through it- if he isn't a "serial cheater," then by all means, try to forgive the indiscretion and try to work on strengthening your marriage so it doesn't happen again.

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