by Just Dee

Created on: July 09, 2007

Love is developed over time. There is lust at first sight which is inevitable. Love is sacrifice, hard work, dedication and accepting a person's faults as well as their downfalls. Love is when you say,"I will not give up on you!." People get an idea of what they think the person is yet after a year, that idea of that person changes and you will start to see that that person is not perfect.

Real love is accepting a person and getting through the hard parts of their personality. Go through the storm and don't give up, over time you fall in love and reap the rewards. I found with my own experiences that love at first sight is a misconception, it's not love. People who have been married for over 40 years will tell you that love is built over time.

There is the basic attraction and chemical reactions that take place when first meeting a person but after 2 years when the butterflies fade, where is the love? Where is the love that says, "man, you don't have any money, you are moody all the time, you are plain difficult to live with sometimes, but babe, I love you and I am going to stick with you until we get past this storm!"

Love has become a rare find because people think that love at first sight exists. A person has to distinguish their emotions more properly or they will wind up getting hurt because of "love at first sight". Our emotions tend to run over our common sense and mental thinking because of butterflies or the term called "love at first sight."

I really believe there is more to it than that. Love is hard work, love is accepting the good times, bad times and all the effort and never giving up. In fact the word Love, is misused and abused. I would rather say, crush at first sight. That would be more truthful. Love is a special thing that is developed over years, love is not an overnight development.

I can honestly say, I love my husband more now than 9 years ago when we first met. We have gone through some very difficult times, but that's love. There is no way that I loved him this much when we first met. Love is something that we as humans cannot grasp, it's potential to develop is only through sacrifice, hard work, forgiveness and most of all, time. Love is more than a butterfly feeling or a little crush. It's more than touching, holding hands and kissing. It's more than a crush. It's saying, I will be dedicated to you, forever!

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