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The debate between moms working outside the home vs. staying at home

No other success can compensate for failure in the home.
David O McKay



This was one of the toughest choices I had to make.

With 4 children and one just barely a year old, I was at the top of my career working as a manager of a wholesale outlet that was growing by leaps and bounds spreading across the USA opening new warehouses all the time. I was making more money than my husband, not to mention how much I loved my job.

I had two young one's that were being taking care of by a sitter, and two in grade school.

Baby Sitters, I had gone through several at this point already and finely found someone that came to my home for a reasonable price, but having said that still nobody loves your kids like you do.

I had read a pamphlet on working Mom's vs Stay At Home Mom's, written by "Ezra Taff Benson" it was titled "To The Mother's In Zion". Basically he pointed out how much love a Mother gives her children and how no one can duplicate it, and how important our roles were as Mothers.

At the end of the read he called all Mothers Home. He said " Come home from your factory job, Come home from your office jobs" Attend to your children and give them the love they deserve" You have been entrusted with these beautiful spirits, just trust in God and he will always provide".

By the end of the pamphlet I was in tears, I felt what he was saying was true and I knew it was really the right thing to do.

The following day at work on the calculator I crunched the numbers, incoming bills, living expenses, vs work expenses, baby sitters, the whole gamut.

The numbers were not matching from my husbands salary alone, but remembering what he said about God providing if we would just do it, left me to pray over my decision.

I came to the conclusion to quite work and be a full time Mom, I gathered the children around and we all had family council over this matter. I explained to them there will be no more going out to dinner every Friday night, we won't be going on shopping sprees fro clothes anymore and told them honestly how tight the money was going to be. I gave them the vote if they thought I should stay at home, and if they decided yes then they were aware of how rough it may be.

The vote was in and overwhelmingly it was YES. This made me so Happy to include my children in this decision but at the same time by the way they were acting It also made me feel so bad how much they wanted their Mother at home.

So I quit my job and my first day home my youngest Emily who was only 1 year old laid on me all day, she just wanted to cuddle and have me hold her. It brought tears to my eyes to see how much she wanted me there.

All my kids upon coming home from school were over joyed to see me and have me prepare a snack for them and assist them with their homework.
It was Great! And I loved every minute of it, this was were I belonged and no one in the world could make me leave. Oh yea thinking about money, remember the part where I told you the numbers didn't match my husbands salary? Well within no time for some reason his money started to go up and up, he started a side business besides his day job and we had more money coming in then we did when the two of us were together working.

Spencer W Kimball was right, God had provided for us and I had the blessed pleasure of being a Mother to my children and seeing them grow and leave the house one by one as adults.
I never forgot to be thankful for that opportunity.

"No other success can compensate for failure in the home."

If your interested in reading this pamphlet here is a link
http://emp.byui.edu/SATTERFIEL DB/PDF/ToMothersofZion.pdf

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