by Samuel W. Connelly

Created on: July 02, 2007

Depending on the situation and intentions, it can very well be a crime against the Laws of Marriage to refuse sex. At the same time it can be a crime against your spouse to force (by guilt) them to have sex with you; this can hurt your marriage just as bad (if not worse) than not "getting any" as often as you would like to.

I have been married to my wife (July 11th) for 9 years, and we know and understand the importance of sex in our relationship. The more sex, the more love making, the more play time, all leads to more closeness and intimacy in the other areas of your relationships. To use sex as a tool or weapon to withhold, out of anger or spite will only lead to division, bitterness, and jealousy.

There is a difference between 'Making Love' and 'Having Sex' and they both have their benefits.

SEXUAL BENIFITS OF SEX:

Studies have shown that when couples have sex, there are chemicals released in the body and brain that have a calming and de-stressing effect.

Having sex burns calories, causes you to pump more air into your blood stream, gets heart rate up causing blood to flow quickly through the body which stimulates various organs through out your system.

Having sex three times a week and maintaining that for a year is equivalent to running 75 miles.

A quick fix (sex) released a chemical called DHEA through the body which increase libido, helps build muscle mass, and wards off depression.

Sex increases (in women) female hormones which help prevent heart attack.

Studies show that sex helps balance out the good cholesterol from bad cholesterol ratio and reduces cholesterol on a whole.

SEXUAL BENEFITS OF LOVE MAKING:

Not only do you get all the great benefits in love making as you do with having sex but in the act of making love you create a stronger emotional foundation for a long lasting marriage.

While making love takes a lot more personal sacrifice than just having sex, its affect on the mind, emotions, and spirit are longer lasting.

The more you make love, the more desire you feel for your spouse.

Making love brings a desire to be honest and transparent with each other.

Love Making takes effort on side of both people; to understand their spouse better, find out what their needs are, understand how they can meet them, which leads the couple beyond the intimate act to the rest of their lives. By understanding the needs and frustrations, stresses, and desires of the spouse and finding ways to meet those needs, help carry the load away from the sex, then when the

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