by Jesse Quintana

Created on: July 02, 2007   Last Updated: January 08, 2008

This information is gold, so listen. Listen good. Pleasing your man is an act of understanding him. Once you understand a man's thought process you will be the Queen of Queens. A woman who genuinely knows how a man thinks will ALWAYS be held in higher regards than a woman who knows a few tricks she learned in a magazine. These tricks will only please us for as long as they last unless you know their underlying appeal.

Women are vastly different from men. Why? Women tend to use emotions and feelings to guide them whereas men tend to use logic. A woman's intuition is a foreign language to most men, which is why, when we fight, frustration erupts. Most conflicts in a relationship are due the static that emotion and logic create when rubbed together. Not to say one of the two is superior, they are simply DIFFERENT.

So, what should a woman do to please her man? THINK LIKE A GUY EVERY ONCE AND A WHILE. Don't try and cater to his emotions like most women tell you to. Cater to his logic. Once you cater to his logic, he will be much more accepting of your primarily feeling based thought process. Guys want the "cool" girlfriend they can hang out with as a friend. Not to say you should renounce your femininity, just UNDERSTAND that he most likely doesn't like all that gushy romantic stuff that you do.

Alright, now for some examples with reasons behind them:

1. Don't expect him to understand why you are upset if you don't explain the reasoning behind it. If you sulk around and non-verbally hint that you are mad or troubled by something, most men will ask you what's wrong, but we HATE doing it. We hate it because it's out of our comfort zone. Just go tell him what's wrong, why, and how he can help you. He'll do his best to fix the situation and appreciate the straight forward approach.

2. Take everything he says at face value. We mean what we say and we say what we mean. We don't like to beat around the bush like most women. If he says " I don't want to talk about it." HE DOES NOT WANT TO TALK ABOUT IT. If you try to look for deeper meanings in his words, you will only annoy him.

3. If he is angry just give him some space. If he's huffing and puffing with a scowl on his face. LEAVE HIM ALONE. We're scowling because we don't want to interact with people. It's LOGICAL to us that a mean face is repellent.

If you keep these things in mind, you will open up pathways of communication between you and your partner that you didn't know existed. As I said before, if you show understanding of him, he will TRY to understand you. Help him along the way as he most likely hasn't read an article entitled "How to Please Your Woman."

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