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I overheard a conversation this week that disturbed me. Actually, it made me angry but I was in no position to speak up, mainly because the conversation wasn't directed at or included me, but because of my own apprehension of telling the two individuals conversing to shut up.

It was a conversation that has become part of our culture - the divorce culture, and not only was the conversation being discussed in the wrong environment, but it was being heard by a little child. The conversation was about her father, and the tale was being told by her mother to another women she barely knew.

Both women were recently divorced, both had children, and both still angry with their ex's. One of them angry enough to voice it in front of her child, and I knew by the tone of her voice and the exchange of words that this was not and would not be the first and only time those words would be heard by daddy's little girl. I felt horrible for this little one, not just for what she was hearing on that particular morning, but for all the days ahead she would have to deal with the two immature parents that were in charge of caring for and raising her.

I'm not just dogging women here, men do it too. For women, the ex's are Bastards, and the ex wives, the Bitches. How long this goes on - no one can predict, but one thing is true; where there's so called hate, there's feeling, and as long as the feeling is negative; there's trouble. Unfortunately, the ones hurt the most are those who care the least to hear the hateful words; the kids.

As I listened to this particular women call her ex on her cell and threaten him (she was upset that for some reason the dental coverage he had on his daughter had expired ((although she had great coverage herself)), and then had to endure listening to her call her ex's mother to complain, all I could do was sit there, fists tight, mouth shut, wanting to blast them both. The anger and gossip coming out of their mouths was ridiculous to me, yet they discussed this topic as if it were front page news. To them it was.

After the conversation ended, I sat there, trying to concentrate on something other than those voices, those words, and the hate. I wondered why those two women were content to spend more time cutting down their ex about what he supposedly WASN'T doing for their children, instead of them planning on what they WERE going to do. However, divorces that turn out like that leave no room for planning for kids; it's only about getting even with each other.

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