by Acey McLacey

Created on: July 02, 2007

"Relationship is understanding. It is a process of self-revelation. Relationship is the mirror in which you discover yourself-To be is to be related. To know oneself is to study oneself in action with another person"

We must form relationships in order to dissolve relationships. In relationships a self is related to another self. The opposite of self is no-self. The No-self is the True Self. When there is no self there is nothing to relate to. No relationships is necessary because you are one with what you relate to. How do you relate to yourself? You can't because you are one. In relationships both parties seek to derive something from the relationship. Usually an Idea that this person can offer you something. We form relationships so we can give to others and in turn they give to us. Be it love, time, money, company, happiness. In relationships all should be given and nothing expected in return. Even if they give to us nothing should ever be expected. The point of relationship is to build power. The power of 2 as one is stronger than the power of 2 individuals.

"Life doesn't care about your relationships. Life is looking for a channel and like a strong wind, it will beat on relationships to test it. If the relationship can't take the testing then either the relationship needs to grow in strength so that it can take it or it may need to dissolve so something new and fresh can emerge from the ruins. Whether it crashes or not is less important than what is learned."

When relationships fail it is because the "I" is not getting what they want. The less want the better the relationship will function. With those we live and work and play with the less we want and expect from them the more they will ultimately give us. If you devote life to no-self than you devote life to all self's, because I am no-self and so is everyone else. If I'm dedicated to the true self(no-self) than I am dedicated to you and me. The goal is to be centered on life. Don't be self centered or even centered on others. Being centered on others deny's yourself. Become one with all things. The true self separates itself from nothing.

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