Opposites can attract and live happily ever after, this after 5 years of marriage I know with certainty.

I met my husband and it was 'instant' love. We were immediately taken by each other and resolved to be together forever.

We've been married now for five years. The dust has settled, the dress stored away, we've even lost touch with some of the friends and family that attended our special evening of December 20th 2001.

We discovered something early on. 'We actually do not have much in common' I stated one afternoon as we were trying to decide where do go- in the car, road map in hand. Very symbolic actually for the rest of our lives. Where were we going on this life long journey of ours.

We had a love for each other that surpassed any hiccup or annoyance that came our way, or doubt from others - as we were married quite young.

That love has kept us together. It's hard compromising and taking in turn doing the things that your partner enjoys that you don't. We know the keys to successful marriages is- communication and compromise but that's already assuming you have a bag full of things that you both share a passion for. Married friends of ours share their love for the outdoors, 4 Wheel Driving etc... Sean and I however have very few things in common.

I'd like nothing more than a Friday night out at a pub watching a local struggling indie punk band. Sean would prefer, for an ideal Friday night, having a drink and a catch up with his 'mates'. We do take these activities in turn. It's not easy, this is only one example of how polar opposite we are. Sometimes it's silly things like what to eat, how warm the house it, my choice of horror movie from blockbuster over an action or comedy flick etc... It certainly keeps us busy, and we share some laughs along the way at his take on my music and my take on his!

What has kept us inseparable most days is our continued and growing love and respect for one another. That is what sustains us during trying times where our differences at times, do get the better of us. It's a journey that I am enjoying. I am to be on this journey with the man I love and chose to be with forever, even with the hidden corners and bumps!

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