by Debra Cornelius

Created on: July 01, 2007

The addition of a child to the family is always cause for celebration!

Celebrating the adoption of a child is certainly appropriate as soon as papers are finalized.

Plan ahead- Just as there is a lot of fun in anticipating the birth of a child, the arrival of the adopted child is no less exciting.

Keep in mind the age of the child.

Include a personalized letter in with the party invitations. - If your guests will be bringing gifts they have no way of knowing what the new addition to the family would like. You have had opportunity to interact and get to know this special person so share your insights into his or her likes and dislikes. Hobbies, interests, favorite TV programs, games, even a favorite color can all be good clues for those wondering what gift may be appropriate. The personal letter of introduction' can also be a good ice breaker for family and friends to start conversations with an older child and make them more at ease.

Food is best kept simple - A cake and finger foods are the easiest to handle in the excitement of a party! A 'Welcome to the Family" message or 'Congratulations on the new addition' inscription may be called for. Of course include any favorite snack items the child may have mentioned.

Decorations can be a theme or simply something that implies a CELEBRATION! -Browse party idea sites, ask family and friends for input. Keep it simple, the focus is on the new family member not how breathtaking the dcor is after all.

Length of time for celebrating- While the joy and anticipation all leads up to a big day, even a fun day can be stressful. Children of all ages react to stress and fatigue differently.
A couple hours is generally enough time for introductions. Family and friends can then drop in to visit in the days ahead when everything is less hectic and the child has time to get to know them one on one.

Take your cues from the child. - If it is a baby or toddler, schedule the celebration during an earlier part of the day and don't feel bad about excusing the little one for a much needed break or nap if they indicate that is needed.

An older child may be fidgety, apprehensive, or just plain tired. Don't force him or her to snuggle with grandma or grandpa or kiss Aunt Jo'. Remember the family is still just a bunch of strangers at this point. Allow the child to get to know people at a level they are comfortable with. The new family member can easily feel overwhelmed and outnumbered even in the midst of the best celebration.

This first celebration with the new arrival can set the tone in making them feel special, loved and welcomed by all. Keep the new adoptive child as the 'guest of honor' and it is sure to be a day everyone remembers in the years ahead.

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