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that you love them no matter what they do, but bad behavior will not be rewarded.

Instead of worrying about the neighbors or what anyone else thinks of you or your child, your attention should be souly on that child needs and his/her learning developement. Granted you may have to work, but that child's needs are extremely important, just as important as it needing a roof over their head or eating.

There are worries about punishments and how to correct a child. In my opinion, that depends upon the child and situation, how they respond to the punishment at hand. Remember that spanking a child is ok to degree. If you are having to smack there backsides more than three swats or re leaving marks, you aren't making an impact other than violence is the only way you know how to solve the problem. Maybe you should ask for professional advice, like a child psychologist. Sure they are expensive. If your child is on the CHIP program, CHIP will pay for it. If they aren't and you don't have medical insurance for your child go to your local wlfare office and ask how to sign up. If you have a family member they look up to, talk to, and respond well with, and the child refuses to listen to you, maybe it is time to explain the situation to that person, how much it means to you if they would step in and try and talk to the child on your behalf. Then don't forget to get feedback trom either the councelor or person you asked to talk to the child. Then see what you can do on your end to gain control again. Asking for help doesn't show weakness. In truth it shows how weak you are when you refuse to ask for help for yourself or for those you love. Turning your back on your child, pretending a problem doesn't exist, or ignoring a problem isn't good either.

There are many ways to be a good parent, the best way is listen, watch, and learn along side of them. A nice idea would be to also keep reading pamphlets you see in doctor offices or other building on parenting tips and tips for certain problems that look familiar. ask for professional advice either on the phone or in person. Most councelors will offer free advice if it means hooking a client. After all, if they answer honestly, and the advice they give works, chances are if you have more issues you need help with or advice, you will be willing to pay for that information on the next call.

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