by Linda Emma White

Created on: June 21, 2007

As a Mother of 4 children, 3 grown 1 almost there. I have been see the spectrum of child rearing.

I have always felt my purpose in their life was to prepare them for adulthood. Since they will be an adult longer than a child. Your focus as a parent overall should be for the time they are mature, seeing to it that they are capable of handling any situation life throws at them.

As your child leaves the nest, you should be confident you have done all you could do to teach him/her how to be on their own. Our main focus each day of their childhood should be spent with the end in site. Teaching, Guiding,and Allowing them to become who their are meant to be.

It is our job as parents to provide security, discipline and Love, so when they are grown your job as a parent is over. Of course this doesn't mean that you won't be an important part of their lives, It just means it was a job well done and they are now capable of being in society, supporting themselves, free to explore life and living life to it's fullest.

There are many parents today that still are wrapped up in their children's lives, grown adults that are lost without their parents help. Lost in a world that is open to them to live had they just been given the proper means to do so.

Our society as we know it is a result of how the adults of today were raised as children. The better parenting the better a society will be in the future.

And better parenting isn't always giving a child everything he or she wants. It a balance you Lear along the way. Each child is different, each child requires an adjustment to your skill. What's good for one isn't always good for another, you have to find the balance with each, as each come with separate distinct personalities.

We see program after program of the effects of inadequate parenting skills. Parents being afraid of a 3 year old temper. You set the rules for you home because you will "Reap what you sow" when it comes to raising a child.

Most the time even as adult children they just need to know you love them, and will always be there for them. But it never hurts to set limits on what acceptable or what's not.

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