by Beatrix Kiddo

Created on: June 20, 2007

'Trust me as I trust you as you gaze into your partners eyes and say I do.'

Marriage has vows 'for richer or poor'. If one does not trust their companion, marriage should be contemplated for the long haul. I know of a woman who married at a young age. Her husband did not trust her due to other women breaking his heart. He did not have a prenuptial agreement but compensated this in other ways. For over 15 years now the women has never been added onto his home, bank accounts and other important financial statuses due to the 'share factor'. The share factor clouds a persons better judgment. People that encourage prenuptial agreements may not trust who the groom is about to marry or vice-versa. Outside encouragements about this subject should not play in the part of someone sharing a life with someone else. Know the vows and come to love them as well as you walk down that isle. There is a reason you say them to begin with. And if you say for 'richer or poor' and demand that prenuptial, are you being the honest one or the hypocrite? Ahhh, but you do have those people who just never shared their toys with others when growing up and they too demand a prenuptial. So, sort that one out before asking another one to put up with your immaturities.

All in all, knowing what love is can bring a better outcome in any situation. As written in the bible, love has a definition which reads,

'Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.' (1 Corinthians 13:1-13)

So, look deep inside at who you are and perhaps the compulsiveness may tame itself just a little more in the upcoming days. If one loves, they seem to deter from 'not' sharing which may lead to the lack of the idea of a compulsory prenuptial agreement.

Trust and control seems to be on the plates of some so perhaps these next links may help them.

http://saveyourmarriage.co.uk/is-your-spouse-a- control-freak/
http://marriage.families.com/blog/are- you-a-controlling-spouse

Here are some links to enlighten your search on the decision of prenuptial.

http://lawfam.oxfordjournals.org/cgi/cont ent/abstract/12/3/307
http://family.jrank.org/pages/1 409/Rich-Wealthy-Families.html
http://en.wikipedia.or g/wiki/Prenuptial_agreement

Personally, I think that prenuptial agreements should be banned since it is the test of life for one person to trust another and if the trust is tainted, couples should not get married.

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