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Fear of Expressing Yourself

Communication is the vital aspect to any healthy or unhealthy relationship. This important element is what makes or breaks marriages, friendships, family relations, dating relations, and more. The root of communication grows deep into every aspect of your life.

The ability to express yourself to someone else allows you to relate yourself to that person. By articulating your feelings you can consent to a significant human need. People survive on human interaction. The hope is that it is all positive interaction, but this isn't always the case. We as people also deal with negative feelings. Like the positive, dealing with the negative is just as important.

If there is a fear of expressing the feelings that are growing inside you, then communication is very hard or doesn't exist. This ceases reaching one of those basic needs of interaction. This can lead people into unhealthy relationships. The fearful party doesn't get those valued emotions out and the other party is left uneducated to the situation.

There can be many situations that can lead to the fear of expressing. A person can have that fear due to a variety of life experiences such as; poor childhood, learned behavior, being shut down by an aggressor, afraid of the counter reaction, and so much more. The major point is that fear is not a personality flaw; it is a learned, instilled from some type of experience, and becomes the new found coping method. This is very unhealthy for all parties involved.

Fear of the reaction of the other person is very common. That is a high reason for most individuals. Being afraid if they will get mad, not listen, lash out, or any type of negative response can hinder that exchange of sentiment. This fear may or may not be justified in the eyes of the recipient, but for that fearful sender it is always justified.

Now to over come that fear is not and never will be easy. The most important objective is though to make that effort, get those emotions on the table and let the cards fall where the may. You can't control how someone else will act or respond, but you can control you and your composure. You can and should place your happiness above that fear.

Tips on over coming that fear. Write down what it is you want to share with that individual, that way if you start to feel pressure or intimidated you don't start repressing your thoughts. Practice what you want to say and say it out loud so that you can hear the emotions leave your tongue. Set up a meeting time for this communication until you can better express on an impromptu setting. Finally, most of importantly remember that the emotions are you feelings and no one can hold that against you or take that a way. Your feelings belong to you.

Just as fear can be learned, overcoming fear can be learned as well!

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