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Face it - being good at your job might look like you're "kissing up".

I am not voting for the "Agree" side of this debate because I think unabashed cowtowing is a great way to get ahead in business.

I'm saying that you have to be unafraid of having your peers telling you that you're "kissing up" - even if you are not. If you have peers who are competing with you, and you gain your boss's favor, you might have to take their jeering, criticism and childish brown-nosing remarks in stride.

TRUTH TO TELL

The best way to deal with a micro-managing supervisor is to keep him or her 100% informed of the status of your projects. Offer information, rather than having it dragged from you kicking and screaming.

Take responsibility for your mistakes. The instant you make them. 'Fess up with a big "MY BAD!" right away. Apologize, and try to suggest solutions and ways to fix the problem. If possible, provide a timeline. This helps your boss, because then they aren't blind-sided when they have answer for your mistake. Believe it or not - most of the time they will actually cover for you.

This helps them learn to trust that you are going to be honest with them, and to respect you as a valuable contributor to their team. Once this trust is established, you will find that you get to pick and choose the information you provide.

Having a boss trust you is a great way to get ahead - you get stretch goals, special assignments, and hauled into meetings for face time with muckymucks. You will succeed along this road, and even if you are merely doing your job well, those who are jealous will call you the boss's pet.

This full-frontal information baring is something I've made my "style" since I began working in Corporate America. I don't care if I'm talking to an executive six levels above me, I'm going to state my opinion for whatever it's worth. I have been called both ballsy and shameless. Behind closed doors my supervisor (and his supervisor) know me to be one who will talk straight and tell it like it is.

I don't rat out my friends or anything like that. But if my opinion is asked, I give it without mincing words. This gets me called a kiss-up.

I will tell a boss to their face they can't manage their way out of a box, and this still gets me called a kiss-up. Why? Because all my peers can see is that I am treated differently than they are.

BECAUSE 'NICE' MATTERS

I'm not one to waste a lot of time chit-chatting about the weekend,

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