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The Internet is just one of many communication tools we have at our disposal and is merely the latest scapegoat for a behavior that is a symptom of bigger issues. Let's not give the Internet more credit than it deserves. The Internet, in and of itself, does not encourage behavior just as a telephone line does not encourage behavior. The Internet, like the telephone line, is simply a means of communication and does not drive behavior. We are human beings who need to accept responsibility and hold others responsible for what they choose to do instead of blaming our cheating on the tools we utilize to do it.

The idea or temptation of cheating is about people. We already have the idea of looking elsewhere for whatever we're lacking in our relationships long before we log on to the Internet. We should remove our focus from external factors and place our focus on our internal relationship issues that cause cheating. We are tempted to cheat for various reasons. Let us consider our lack of satisfaction with our partner, our failure to communicate our needs or acknowledge and meet the needs of our partner, and the fact that some of us are disloyal by nature. These are a few of many issues that can encourage cheating.

When we're dissatisfied with our partner, it makes us vulnerable to people outside our relationship. We become attracted to people who seem to have something our partner lacks or who seem to give us a feeling our partner can't. How we respond to this situation is the key. We can either choose to communicate our mutual wants and needs with our partner or we can choose to remain vulnerable. Vulnerability will inevitably lead us to cheat.

Some of us expect our partners to instinctively know and give us exactly what we want and need. When we don't get it, we look elsewhere instead of affording our partner the opportunity to meet our desires. Also, there are those of us who have ignored our partners expression of their needs and desires. Mishandling relationships in this manner can encourage cheating as well.

Finally, there of those of us who naturally desire multiple relationships. We set ourselves up for failure by committing when we should remain single. We know that we are never satisfied with one person but we try to suppress who we are and ultimately end up cheating.

In reality, we can't blame cheating on the tools we use to do it. Cheating is encouraged by how we manage our relationships. If we look at the truth of this matter we can all enjoy happier, and healthier relationships.

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