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I do remember giving this some thought but not before I saw my sister following my path ( to an extent). Do young teenagers and women think that in order to get a guy is my throwing their pants on the floor? Whatever happened to getting to know each other. What happens when the physical outward appearance fades? What then do we have? If we never take the time to know each other then we are hopeless without sex?

I know I started dating when I was 13 and that is young. I think my reason was codependancy. I didn't feel as if I had anyone to turn to. I wanted to be "loved" by someone that wasn't obligated to love me. I did not date and date. My first boyfriend lasted for two years. I was not single for long before the next boyfriend took up three years of my life.
Little did I know that I deserved better. I was strangeled, I was emotionally put down. My self esteem was at an all time low. I felt totally worthless. I put everything I had into that boy, and he didn't care. From then on, not a single guy truely cared. Now I'm scared to death of being involved in another relationship. I'm terrified of finding out that one to would be a fake.
Then I see my little sister, only 17 dating. That's ok. I'm fine with her dating. It's okay that every relationship she has only lasts two months.
Then one of them has the bright idea has the audasity to ask her to marry him. Not only that he left a voicemall asking her to have his baby! That's when I hit the roof.
I thought that if she were to become sexually active she would tell me. Apparently not. Come to find out she's way more sexually active than what I even thought would be the worst! Then.. she's throwing herself at them?!
So tell me this.. Has society today put a pressure on our girls to satisfy men sexually rather than being attracted to who they really are? No wonder our relationships fail. No wonder our divorce rates are high.
It makes me sick, and it makes me feel as if it's not worth even thinking love exists anymore.

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