The number one way in my opinion to improve your sex life is to be open to making changes. There are so many opportunities to make sex more exciting, to make it better as a whole and to make it better for both people.

Be comfortable with yourself first. Know that you have flaws and that's fine, but work what you DO have. For the women, if you need a pick me up, take a belly dancing class, take yoga or take a stripper class. All are fun, all are available with strictly women in their classes, and it gives you an opportunity to move your body and get in touch with your sexuality and expand your comfort zone. If classes aren't your thing, buy dvd's and do it in the privacy of your own home.

Buy new lingerie that you're comfortable in, that you feel sexy in. Try a pair of heels and leave them on.

Compliments work! Not only for women but for men also. Men have insecurities as do women so compliments from both people are going to get you into the bedroom as well as keep you in there. Make them specific, not just generic "you look great" comments.

Be willing to try new things. If you're totally against it then that's fine. However, if you have an inkling to try it then go for it. If you don't like it then never do it again and if you do, then you just added a little spice to your sex life and all it took was a little imagination. If you have no clue where to start to spark your imagination, the internet and dvd's are a great place to start for ideas. Sex is supposed to be fun!

Be affectionate to each other. Too many couples I see exchange a kiss in the morning and one at night. Try holding hands, brushing the hair out of her eyes; little touches have a lot of meaning behind them.

Be a little naughty. Send a text message to your partner to get them riled during the day. Leave them a note (where no one else can find it). Call them, tell them what you're wearing (or not wearing), then tell them you have to go and hang up. Anticipation leads to imagination and vice versa.

Finally, communicate! If you want to try something (or not try something), tell your partner. This person should be okay with whatever you want to do. Hear them out and be willing to compromise. Lead or guide them, be willing to take and give direction. Both partners should be satisfied, it's not all about one person. Make sure both of you have private time for each other. Couples need to have that sexual connection, it's an important part of a relationship.

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