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Domestic violence comes in many shapes and forms; Such as emotional abuse, verbal, mental, and of course physical. Now, I understand that seemingly the worse of these is physical abuse, but I don't feel that the other types of abuse have been reviewed as harshly as the obvious type. Of course, abuse of any kind is in humane and should not be tolerated, but I feel that everyone should be educated in that all abuse can lead to the same nasty results in children as well as adults.

Child abuse is popular to say the lease. I've noticed it among all types of people in all types of circumstances. It happens when the intentions behind the discipline becomes taunted. It changes from that of correction to that of anger, fear or some other type of negative emotion. I don't think many people even know that they are abusive or can be abusive. Unfortunately, children that grow up with this type of underlying abuse system can not help but to repeat the pattern because it is what they have been taught and learned and know. And we know that we can not do better until we know better. So there must be more education about different forms of abuse and more so, it's effects on its' victims.
When a child is abused it effects his/her "make-up", what they are to become. It effects his/her character. Their belief system, their faith in people. It effects their self-worth. It makes a child feel that they can not contribute as much to society as the next person because of all the negative crap they have been fed. Just think if you live in an environment that only told you what you would not become or what you are not capable of. How would you feel if no one ever had any hope in you or faith in your God given talents? -and always downed you and kept you troubled in your thoughts. That is abuse. Anytime a child is surrounded by negative energy, there is abuse. Because nothing good will come from negative reinforcement. Yet, so many people think different. What children need is a loving foundation to where knowledge and discipline is shared in a way that is safe and respectable.
I feel that many parents are just afraid of how their children will turn out and because of the fear, the parents express the wrong emotion in correction. We must trust ourselves as parents and as people in adult relationships to believe in other people and watch for strengths in people's character to promote or lift up. The abuse must stop. It is nothing more than a form of control. The abuser must be in control. Most abuse happens when an abuser feels that he/she have lost control. Children of abuse usually turn into adults who are abusive or seek abusive relationships. Adults who are in abusive relationships usually seek out each other because of common ground. The cycle must end. The self-worth must go up. The healing must began. The fear has to become corrupt. We can change. We can break the cycle. It all begins with education. When we know better, we must command to do better.

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