Sex on the first date...hmmm? Good decision or bad decision?
Doesn't it really depend on the situation and the attraction level?
Moral and Religious reasons aside...I simply believe this to be a personal choice that truly depends on the attraction existing between two consenting adults. The last time I had sex on the 1st date was last night. Truly... A fellow that I met, flirted with and really wanted to date finally asked me out... the sheer anticipation of being alone with him was consuming me... once we had the opportunity to spend time together it turned into a marathon date, we were about 13 or 14 hours into the date when we realized that we were sexually and magnetically attracted to one another. When he finally kissed me... I knew that I wanted him to spend the night and he did. He has already called me twice today, plus we have planned future activities like seeing the Fantastic 4 premier on Friday. It feels wonderful. Honestly, 1st night sex is rare for me...and I had told him so during the date... he later joked that he stayed with me for over 13 hours just to say that it was technically our 2nd day together not our first. lol.

I know without a doubt that first date sex is only possible when an overwhelmingly deep attraction and bond exists. Some may say that I have loose morals... maybe, but I do know this one thing. I have a new boyfriend...and he is the guy of my choice and I am the woman of his choice. We are both adults over 35 and we took our time getting to know each other prior to our 1st official date. I have also read that women that sleep with someone on the 1st night never hear from that man again. This is a questionable statement as I married my ex-husband after sleeping with him on the first date and we were married for 10 years.

I think First Date Sex boils down to this... attraction or no attraction, morals or no morals? My morals are pretty loose at this stage of the game. I am a mature woman who has been through the gamut of love, dating and marriage. I just think that we saved ourselves a lot of unnecessary time. I have dated men as long as year or more before and never had sex! I consider these experiences to be completely and totally unfulfilling. I think it is important to know immediately whether there is real sexual attraction or not. The sooner you know, the better. That is just my personal opinion, based on my previous life experiences.

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