You should never need to 'get your boyfriend to propose to you'. The quick and dirty advice, if he doesn't/can't/won't do it on his own, then perhaps he is not the right one for you. I firmly believe that one should never play games in order to trick their partner into doing something they want them to do, most certainly when it's something as huge as a proposal. Getting engaged and subsequently, getting married, are not things to be entered into lightly.

There is a difference between a guy being scared to propose because he isn't sure of your answer and a guy not wanting to propose because he's not sure you are the one for him. If it is the latter, in your heart of hearts, you more than likely are feeling the same way, but are clouded by the fairy tale of marriage and your desire for all things that come with that. If you feel your relationship is headed for marriage, but are still waiting for the ring, you should discuss this with your partner and see what his thoughts are on marriage. The simple answer could be that he doesn't believe in marriage and is happy with the relationship as it is, if you feel differently than he does, this may be the time for you to re-assess your wants/needs when it comes to your relationship with your partner. The hard to hear answer may be that he is just kind of 'there' and isn't wanting to make that kind of commitment with you. As hard as it would be to hear this news, wouldn't you rather hear it now than 5 years from now when you are all married up and have kids?

The natural progression of any relationship should involve discussions about your future. If you are with someone who never talks about the future, or when he does it's only about his future and not your future, there should be some flashing red lights going off for you. If he doesn't see a future with you, he certainly isn't going to be buying you a ring anytime soon. Honesty plays a big part here. If you are honest with each other and honest with yourself, you will know if you are headed for marriage or headed down separate roads. And, in being completely honest with yourself, don't you want to be with someone who wants to be with you, and wouldn't give a second thought about proposing to you without any effort on your part? Listen to your gut, it never lies.

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