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A lot of people have been posting bulletins, which honor the nice guys. I agree that the "nice guys" don't get enough credit, but I do have a theory on why. All the nice guys are insecure. You sit there whining about girls, or wondering what is wrong with you, or change your self to be more appealing according to your surroundings, or basically betray who you are because who you are hasn't worked for you. We all have insecurities, but isn't it getting out of hand?

What is attractive? CONFIDENCE! Yes it is cliche, but it is the harsh reality. A woman is attracted to a guy who is strong, funny, ambitious, smart, good looking (beauty is in the eye of the beholder), and has confidence! How do you get confidence? Instead of looking at yourself and trying to improve all of the flaws you see (and no one else notices), look within yourself and pick out the good things about yourself. Convince yourself that you are worthy of love because you have a lot to offer to the right lady. Be choosy instead of waiting for the girl who will feel pity for you and date you for awhile.

Really, being labeled a nice guy is like death romantically. You know and I know that in that head of yours, you are eyeing down her cleavage when you think she's not looking. You're watching her hips shake when she walks away. Grow some balls and let her catch you admiring her! Women are insecure enough for the both of you anyway and she did not spend all that time getting ready to assure you all night that "everything is okay and she IS having a good time. It is a real turn off. A woman wants to feel special and not feel like you are settling for her because she has a vagina and was willing to go out with you. Oh, and too many sappy gestures and awkward cheesy pickup lines will make a girl run. Traditionally being chivalrous is awesome and shows you have respect for her, but when it goes to the point of doing too much too soon, she'll probably wonder how often you have done the same for other girls.

What I'm trying to say is that all you "nice guys" are not really "nice guys." You are just constantly second guessing your worth and in turn creating exactly what you fear! You are constantly trying to fine tune your "game," but we can see right through it. It's phony! You are too nice to the point of being a doormat for fear women won't like you. If you would just let go of the act and accept what you can not change. Learn to embrace who you are without constantly focusing on if there is something wrong with you.

Any girl would be lucky to have a guy who treats her right and makes her feel desired, but being polite ALL the time is boring. Show us that edgy bad boy every now and then, PLEASE! When you make-love to us, don't always make love! Make it raw and hardcore sometimes. When we think you are predictable, surprise us! Instead of the four star restaurant you keep trying to impress us with, go grab some nachos at the bowling alley. You get what I'm saying?

Good Luck "nice guys"

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