This is a big problem in our society. I do believe that it is more prevalent in my black culture. I believe there are several reasons why that is so. One reason is an eroding of our core values. We have placed more emphasis on the almighty dollar than we have on raising our children. Our values are on what makes you feel good at the moment or whats in style, and doing whatever the masses are doing.

I believe we have to get back to honoring and living by the Ten Commandments. Basically, that is living as God would want us to behave. We have accepted having sex outside of marriage (fornication) and producing babies out of wedlock. Yes, we have a history of oppression that led to depression, so we spend too much time, trying to wash away our misery, with alcohol, drugs, partying and sex.

Women have accepted raising children out of wedlock, whereas many years ago, that was not acceptable. Nowadays it is nothing for two people to date, have a relationship, produce children without a commitment to become a family. Our values are loose, they are not where they should be.

Women cannot raise a boy to be a man, normally. It takes a man to enforce discipline and bring balance to the family. As a boy gets older he begins to test his mother and get his way outside his normal limits, if there is no man in the home to keep him in check. A man in the home that is doing is proper part, shows the boy how to become a man. He is also crucial to his daughters self-esteem, self-respect, confidence and relationship/social skills.

I feel that as more and more fathers are absent in the home, this problems grows and permeates into other areas of society.

Many fathers (I have to give it to them) may not be physically in the home but they are very active in nurturing, bonding, and providing for their children's total needs.

But we have to get back to loving one wife, providing for our family, and the two (mother and father) raising their children together. It does take two, yes, its been done well many times with one but it really takes two!

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