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As if dealing with a divorce isn't emotionally taxing enough, feuding couples with children face an even more difficult challenge in ensuring that their kids adjust to the inevitable changes that accompany a separation.

Divorce often means big changes in routine and living arrangements, which can easily shake a child's sense of security but there are some steps that parents can take in order to make the child's transition as smooth as possible.

Though it may not be possible in every situation, parents should do their best to remain amicable with each other for the sake of their children. Even if this is not a possibility, parents should be cautious to never bad mouth the other parent to their kids or in front of them.

Talking to the children openly and honestly about the situation is an essential component of limiting the negative impact that divorce can have on a child. Explain to them what is going on in terms that they can understand and advise them of any specific changes that they can expect to see in the family structure. Remind your child that they still have two parents who love them and will support them unconditionally. Give them an opportunity to express their feelings and answer any questions they may have as honestly as possible.

Be patient with them and understand that they are going through a difficult time as well. If they are angry about the situation, try not to take it personally and be sure to validate their emotions.

Develop a strong support system. As a newly single parent, you are going to need all the help you can get, especially where your children are concerned. It is a good idea to check in with your child's teacher and keep them abreast of what is going on at home. The teacher spend a great deal of time with your child and can be an extremely effective ally if given the right opportunity. Talk with him/her and ask that he/she be on the lookout for changes in your child's behavior, academic performance or problems with peers. These things can be a good indication of how your child is coping with the divorce and should be monitored carefully.

Although it will not be easy, it is possible for both parents and children to learn from the negative experience of divorce and grow together as a result.

For single parents who would like more information on how to cope with divorce and who would like to network with other single parents in similar situations, I recommend that you visit http://www.BreakingUpWithoutBr eakingDown.com. There you will find an online community of broken heart survivors that could offer valuable insights and additional support.

Good luck!

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