by Elizabeth Vaughn

Created on: June 11, 2007

In short, it is for truth. Whether that truth is the reality of the situation, or your preferred "truth" that is actually a lie, we ask because we want to know the truth.

Many people build their entire lives around "truths" that are illusions. Like those that claim they want to hear a certain answer, or they are being co-dependent. That is a truth coating the denial of the truth. But, the truth is still at the heart of it all. Those that ask a question expecting a certain answer have already submersed themselves in a world of illusionary truth, and when they hear the answer they feared the illusion starts to break away. We are then left with heartache, sadness, anger, or a mixture of other negative emotions.

It seems like we should stop asking these questions because we know the answer won't make us happy, but it is not the asking nor the answer that is wrong. It is our perception of the situation entirely.

If you ask your cheating husband where he was last night, you already know he will lie about it, but you may choose to believe it to continue your desired truth. When you eventually catch him, and you ask why he did it, you already know you don't want to hear the answer but you have to satisfy your natural curiosity for the truth. It is human nature to search for the truth. Was it wrong to ask why? No. It was wrong to deny the situation and then allow it to creep up on you.

When you look for the truth with an open understanding that the answer may not make any sense to you whatsoever, the answer doesn't frighten you as much. If you rely on faith to give you happiness and deliver the answers you want, you are in for a large disappointment. But, when you accept the situation that calls for questioning as either "God's will", or whatever it is at face value despite your desired "truth", then you will have more satisfaction in searching for and knowing the truth.

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