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any control of their safety. A few years ago my oldest son announced he would be doing some traveling, and I was absolutely fine with it. (After all, he was over 25 - and apparently that's when I'm ready to accept that if something goes wrong it won't involve some judgment one of them has made with an immature brain. If something goes wrong it will be the result of a choice made by someone who has truly reached adulthood.)

I've let go when it comes to my two sons, and I'm in the process of relaxing some when it comes to my daughter. I continue to marvel at how Nature seems to work so well.

Still, I am and always will be their mother. I may not interfere in their business, and I may relax when they travel or make major decisions in their lives, but when any of them asks me for information or advice that's based on my living longer and having more experience, I realize I still play an important role in their lives; and that they are fortunate to know they have someone they can trust if they want or need someone like that. As old as they are, I still do what it takes to create holiday atmosphere in the house for them. My oldest son will so often sit down to Christmas dinner and say, "Now I feel like Christmas."

There is no erasing the fact that I have raised these individual from the time they were infants, and there's no erasing (and no point in hiding or trying to fight) the fact that I have a mother's love for them. There's no point in pretending that anyone in this world will ever want their happiness and good health more than I do. There's no point in pretending that no matter how old they are or how capable or accomplished they when their father and I are both gone, there will be a part of each of them that feels just a little like an orphan for the rest of their lives. Yes - I am their parent and will always be their parent, and trying to be anything else to them would be trying to deny a very precious reality and very important role.

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